There is great value to be gained when we take the time to try to understand someone's point of view. By changing our attitude toward them and changing our point of view about what makes them "wrong" we can find sources to improve our own ability to work with people.
Seems simple? not really... especially if the difficult person is someone who really close to you in blood!
Sometimes I wonder... if there is anything that i could do to change the situation.. everything seems turning upside down.. I can no longer understand this person's viewpoint. Does it mean that the loneliness has been the reason for all of this? Might be.. might be not.. I don't know..
The symptoms of "Do it my ways or else" seems to be the hot issue here.. This person no longer can "listen" and always choose not to understand the situation.. it's sucks.. but than again.. I don't have any other ways then stay back and avoid the conversation.. Lucky me.. I am thousand miles away.. so I can just play the role as a watcher... It sad though.. I can only pray.. hope the situation gets better soon...
Tips for dealing with negative aspects in others:
- When you see someone go into attack mode or excess defensiveness, recognize that it is useless to argue with them.
- Realize that the person is feeling very insecure at that time.
- Don’t continue to push them because they will only get worse.
- If the symptoms only seem to occur when the person is under stress, wait until another time to pursue the discussion.
- If they are always overly defensive or always attacking others, you may need to find another person to work with who does not have the same problem.
- Keep your own sense of self-confidence and don't allow yourself to be verbally abused.
- If the difficult person is your boss, reconsider whether it's time to find a job elsewhere.
