hebat nya si kecil nila tanzil......... =)

Dikala manusia mencoba untuk menentukan hasil akhir....

Setelah gw post tulisan gw mengenai "... made list of all persons we had harmed..........." ternyata ga semudah itu loh prakteknya... maksudnya.. ini adalah salah satu langkah dimana gw mencoba untuk menjadi a better person.. gw coba untuk pilih satu orang dan meminta maaf dengan gaya gw.. tapi.. sebelum gw kirim msg di fb... gw udah menerawang hasil akhir yang gw harapkan... dan disaat orang itu ngebales msg gw.. to be honest.. nggak 100% sesuai dengan harapan gw.. yaa ini mungkin salah satu pengalaman dimana gw masih aja mencoba untuk mengontrol hasil akhir.. dimana sebenernya itu bukan porsi gw.. akhirnya yaa.. sedikit kecewa..

But anyway.. gpp... yang penting saat ini gw sadar akan perasaan itu... perasaan dimana gw mencoba untuk menentukan hasil akhir nya.. dan disaat gw tau, not as bad as i thought though..
Memang yang terbaik tentunya melepaskan hal itu.. let go and let God aja... =) not that easy as well.. haha.. coba aja... mungkin memang itu yang terbaik.. (sebenernya bukan mungkin sih..) gw memang musti percaya kalo Tuhan punya jalan lain untuk gw.. yang memang lebih baik tentunya...

let's try it again.. =)

# Step 8 - Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all

This is what i am trying to do.. to ask forgiveness to those who I had harmed in my past life.
This is not an easy step for me to do.. but I am willing to achieve it by listing all the people that comes in mind. I did one yesterday.. responded quite fast and i am happy for that!

How It Works

We have a list of all persons we have harmed and to whom we are willing to make amends. We made it when we took inventory. We subjected ourselves to a drastic self- appraisal. Now we go out to our fellows and repair the damage done in the past. We attempt to sweep away the debris which has accumulated out of our effort to live on self-will and run the show ourselves. If we haven't the will to do this, we ask until it comes.
-A.A. Big Book p.76

Best Friends.. what does it means..

Best friend(s) should mean someone with whom one shares the strongest possible kind of friendship. But in the real world.. sometimes I found a lot of people use the word "best friend" without using the true meaning of it. Maybe they should use the term "friendship" instead of "best friend".

Friendship should mean a closer relationship (without a personal relationship) whom one shares with his/her association (which should also closer than association) with some degree of intimacy between them.

Unconditional friendship should refer someone to a degree of best friend. Which they should also understand that some means of possessiveness might leads to the stage of un-comfortability in the other hands.

"Both men and women can become possessive in relationships, often to the detriment of the union. Ironically, the more possessive a person becomes, the more their partner will likely struggle to be free, hence making the person feel an even greater need to control the situation. It is a vicious and emotionally draining situation" taken from http://www.sedona.co

Quite true, especially when the person who actively become possessive in a relationship did not understand what they do.

A Nice poetry by Ashley Montgomery

A true friend never walks away
A true will always stay
A true friend looks out for you

A true friend will guard your secrets
Like a precious gift
A true friend is there for you
To give you a helpful lift

A true friend tries to make you smile
Tries to replace that frown
They may not always succeed
But they rarely let you down

These arms for you are open
This heart for you does care
And when I think you need me
I'll try to always be there

I'll listen to your fears
I promise not to laugh
Comfort your falling tears
I'll make this friendship last

I'll keep you near to my heart
I'll always hold you dear
Even when we're miles apart
Even when you're here

I hope I am to you
Everything you are to me
For the friendship we have
Is a special one indeed.

RT CHIKI ZOEHRA

My deepest prayers and wishes are always with you my dearest best friend, Chiki Zoehra...

I'm not good at it.. when it comes to write something about you! it's difficult to know what to write.. it's so sad and painful to even start writing. However.. I tried so much to write something about you... Chiki Zoehra.. my best friend..

We went to primary school together, it was 25 years back.. we used to played together and do some funny stuff on our spare times.. 

I was so lucky to know that you were here at that time.. It was last year.. when I was on my interview session.. I met you again.. after so many years. 

We met at long john silver.. you wore your glasses and your cute shoes. We had so much fun on the next few hours.. chit chatting and exploring each others. I still remember that time quite clearly.

Until then, we became closer and closer.. we were regularly met each other and sort of knowing each other even better.. We've had shared our deepest secret as what best friends always did.. You were really fast to understand me. I always hide behind you every time I need to meet some old classic friend... You know what it means rite? =)

I understand that you've been having some busy time with your own life, until then yesterday was come. Aim told me that nay nay sms me and asking if the news was true. I was so damn shocked! tried to call your best mate here to check the news.. but seems I didn't find the answers. I called your sister then.. and when i heard she was crying on the other line.. I suddenly start crying.. couldn't believe that it was true.. You leave me on my birthday. So sad.. but somehow I believe that this is the best way that GOD has given to my loved one. I am so glad that you slept with your pretty face and your best smile!

Good bye my friend. My prayers are with you always.

Thanks for being there for me. Thanks for being such a marvelous friend. My smart, kind, care and loving friend. A very good mom for Kashel.. Chiki Zoehra may you rest in peace.

BEING DIFFICULT

What makes people difficult?? Some people say that the difficult person is someone who is working from the negative side of their personality, rather than a conscious desire to be difficult. The person is often unaware of themselves and how they affect others. They also don't realize how harmful their actions are to their own life.

There is great value to be gained when we take the time to try to understand someone's point of view. By changing our attitude toward them and changing our point of view about what makes them "wrong" we can find sources to improve our own ability to work with people.

Seems simple? not really... especially if the difficult person is someone who really close to you in blood!

Sometimes I wonder... if there is anything that i could do to change the situation.. everything seems turning upside down.. I can no longer understand this person's viewpoint. Does it mean that the loneliness has been the reason for all of this? Might be.. might be not.. I don't know..

The symptoms of "Do it my ways or else" seems to be the hot issue here.. This person no longer can "listen" and always choose not to understand the situation.. it's sucks.. but than again.. I don't have any other ways then stay back and avoid the conversation.. Lucky me.. I am thousand miles away.. so I can just play the role as a watcher... It sad though.. I can only pray.. hope the situation gets better soon...

Tips for dealing with negative aspects in others:

1. When you see someone go into attack mode or excess defensiveness, recognize that it is useless to argue with them.
2. Realize that the person is feeling very insecure at that time.
3. Don’t continue to push them because they will only get worse.
4. If the symptoms only seem to occur when the person is under stress, wait until another time to pursue the discussion.
5. If they are always overly defensive or always attacking others, you may need to find another person to work with who does not have the same problem.
6. Keep your own sense of self-confidence and don't allow yourself to be verbally abused.
7. If the difficult person is your boss, reconsider whether it's time to find a job elsewhere.

source : www.itstime.com

Incredible hulk!

Sabtu, 14 Juni 2008

Hari ini dimulai dengan bangun siang seperti biasanya terus gue ma bebeb siap siap pergi karena kita mau nonton Incredible hulk! Lumayan.. dapet tiket gratisan dari Mr. Yap! our ex Landlord in Paris! Sebelum kesana kita urus2 bank dulu... mau bayar tiket pulang soalnya ;-)

Beres ngurusin bank, kita langsung ngantri bis deeh.. ternyata lama juga bis nya.. jadi bebeb berinisiatif untuk naik taxi aja... ;-p sampe disana, kita nonton... hmm.. not bad.. not spectacular as well...

Here is the review:

"General Thunderbolt Ross (William Hurt) wanted to develop weapons from it. Now he wants to capture The Hulk and try to make the monster part of his army.

Norton’s Bruce Banner is a torn, anguished figure, tortured by the knowledge that at any time he can become a vicious monster. But he’s equally upset at being tricked by the military, and afraid to reconcile with his love Dr. Betsy Ross (Liv Tyler), who also happens to be the general’s daughter.

Leterrier’s film begins essentially where Lee’s ended, only it’s now five years later. Banner has eluded capture and remained on the run, still seeking the antidote for his condition.

Eventually, despite his best intentions, Banner draws his love Betsy back into his life. He’s been communicating with someone who may or may not have a cure (Ty Burrell), and eventually he decides to let Dr. Ross know what’s happening.

But the general hasn’t abandoned the search for Banner or the Hulk. He’s recruited a truly scary type to help him in Emil Blonsky (Tim Roth), a paramilitary figure anxious not only to display his mettle, but seeking to become scarier than the Hulk.

How these people intersect, and the bond between Banner and Betsy, propel the narrative The Incredible Hulk. Reportedly, Leterrier and Norton wanted to do a longer, more character-intensive film while Marvel, now in charge of their cinematic super-hero portrayals, insisted on more action and less talk.

Whether that’s true or not, there are several spectacular fight scenes featuring such classic Marvel staples as huge sonic cannons and other high-tech weaponry."

Starring: Edward Norton, Liv Tyler, Tim Roth, William Hurt, Tim Blake Nelson, Ty Burrell
Time: 114 minutes
Rating: PG-13

(from http://www.nashvillecitypaper.com)

Abis nonton, kita ke Conrad.. karena ada mba rina and the kids dateng ke sini, stop over 1 malem karena mereka besok mau ke perth untuk liburan 1 bulan.. ouch! hihihi.. mudah mudahan bisa kesampean juga deh kita liburan ke Aussie.. amien...

Dari Conrad, bebeb pulang duluan, karena hari ini dia kerja sore sampe malem seperti biasa.. jadi gue jalan jalan deh ma mba rina ke Marina Square.. liat2.. nyari baju pesta teteeeup ga dapet. Pulang dari Marina Square kita makan.. bareng Mas Hegar juga and de kids! makan di BAB - Millenia Walk... not bad at all.. the portion was big! abis itu balik ke hotel.. terus gue baliik..

Masak bentar buat bebeb.. terus udah deh.. browsing2 sambil nunggu bebeb pulang! =)